Recently, we’ve seen a rise in a specific request from parents looking for a nanny: “I am not interested in anyone who has young children of their own.”
Some beat around the bush while others are more direct. But the message from parents is always the same, We believe a nanny with children may not be as committed, available, or reliable.
It’s a request that concerns us because it’s discriminatory. And it comes from mothers themselves. Why does this matter?
The Double Standard: Mothers Judging Mothers
Women are constantly told we can “have it all”, careers, children, stability, but are rarely given the support to do so.
If a mother applies for an office job and is asked, “Who will watch your child when they’re sick?” She is upset and feels discriminated against. But, when that same mother is looking for a nanny, they do not want to interview a nanny if they mention having their own children on their resume.
We don’t say this to embarrass anyone. We understand. Parents want reliability and stability. Someone who will show up. But that desire can’t override human rights or fairness.
A nanny with their own children knows what it means to be dependable. They are no less committed than any other nanny. They may actually be more motivated because they want to create financial stability for their family. We need to stop assuming that parenthood makes someone less capable of care work, when the opposite is often true.
Speaking Personally…
As a mother myself, my children now adults, I know how the work-life juggle can feel. I remember the guilt, the exhaustion, the overwhelming feeling that I needed to do it all and be there for everyone. That’s why I have respect for nannies who are also parents. Despite their own responsibilities at home, they show up with reliability, dedication, and professionalism. They understand the balance it takes to manage both roles, and they come prepared.
The Legal Reality
In Canada, it is illegal to discriminate in hiring on the basis of family status under the Canadian Human Rights Act and most provincial human rights codes (e.g., BC Human Rights Code, Section 13).
Employers, including families hiring nannies, cannot deny opportunities based on whether a candidate has children. You can ask about availability, but not whether they have children.
According to Statistics Canada, nearly 8 in 10 Canadian mothers of young children work, the highest rate it’s ever been. These women aren’t just workers. They’re leaders, entrepreneurs, caregivers, and changemakers. If we want a society that supports working mothers, we can’t exclude the ones applying to care for our children.
To the mothers who’ve made this request: We understand. You want peace of mind.
However, we ask that you pause and consider the situation.
Would you want your employer to deny you a promotion because you have young kids? Would you want them to assume you’re “less committed” because your child might need you? Now ask: why are we holding nannies to a different standard?
What We Believe at The Nanny Solution
We believe in hiring nannies based on their character, qualifications, and commitment, rather than personal circumstances. We believe that working mothers deserve respect, protection, and opportunities, whether they’re working in a corporate office or your home.
We believe that we’re stronger when we support each other, woman to woman, mother to mother.
Let’s build a childcare world where nannies aren’t penalized for being mothers themselves.
If You’re a Family Hiring a Nanny…
You deserve peace of mind. And we’re here to help you find the right fit; someone experienced, dependable, and professional.
But if you care about equity, fairness, and support for working mothers, start by being the kind of employer you’d want to work for.
Ready to hire with heart and integrity? Contact The Nanny Solution today.